I woke up at 6am on the 21/01/17 (one day after my guess date of 20/01/17) with mild
surges which continued consistently every 10mins. I was very excited and ready to birth our
baby, worried that labour may stop I decided to do what I could to encourage things to keep
moving along. My fiancé Jamie and I cleaned the house and put up new curtains in living
room and bedroom, I then got on the ride-on mower and mowed the lawn (stopping for a
minute when I needed to and breathing through each mild surge).
I had a shower and then at around 2.30pm I called the maternity unit to inform them of my
progress, at this point I was still having surges lasting up to one minute consistently every
10mins. Due to us living almost 2hours away from the hospital the midwife suggested
coming in to check my progress. We decided to take bags for hospital and an overnight bag
for an apartment in town where we would go to stay if I was not kept in at the hospital at
Around 5pm we arrived at the hospital, after being monitored for about 30mins midwife
and Dr were happy all was looking well, surges were still mild and around 7mins apart, we
were allowed to leave the hospital. Jamie and I booked into an apartment in town so we
could labour there as long as possible knowing we were only a few minutes drive from the
I laboured in the apartment, I had an aromatherapy bath, listened to hypobirthing tracks
and Native American flute music. After my bath I laboured on the couch, on the bed, and on
the birth ball. Jamie used light touch massage to help through the surges which were
building in intensity. At 11pm the surges were quite intense and 3 mins apart, so we decided
it was time to head back to the hospital.
At 11.30pm I was 3cm dilated. The midwife put the lights on low, put the aromatherapy
diffuser on, pushed the bed up against one wall creating more floor space and brought the
birth ball, birth stool and floor mat into the room for me creating the beautiful calm
environment in the birth suite I had hoped for.
Between midnight and approx. 2am I laboured in the bath listening to hypnobirthing tacks
and Native American flute music. Jamie used a cold face cloth to help keep me cool and held
my hand when I needed him to for support. I managed to breathe my way through the
surges quite well at this stage. The midwife came in a few times and checked baby’s heart
rate, she did this very discreetly and did not interrupt the calm environment in any way.
At about 2am I felt like I wanted to get out the bath and move around a bit more, from
around 2am-3.30am I laboured sitting/resting in the chair between surges and standing up
leaning over the other chair during surges, intensity had really increased by this time, I was
quite vocal during surges. Jamie used counter pressure on my back and held and supported
me during surges.
At 3am after labouring for 21hrs using only hypnobirthing techniques I was beginning to
really struggle with the intensity of the surges and asked to try some gas and air, I got some
relief from this. Jamie continued to support me and encourage me with my breathing
techniques and frequently gave me drinks of water when I needed it.
I then started labouring on all 4’s over a beanbag on the bed as I was completely exhausted
by this point, I think more than once I stated “I can’t do this anymore” Jamie continued to
support me reminding me I could do it and feeling this way meant baby was getting closer. I
was struggling to breathe through the surges and as my breathing became erratic using gas
and air was difficult, at this point I asked Jamie to ask midwife what my options were for
pain relief. I was told I could have a pethidine injection or epidural, I opted for injection
which I was told could take around 15mins to take effect. The midwife had to check how
dilated I was to make sure I could have it, at this stage I was 4cm dilated and 80% effaciated.
5 mins later my water began to break, this gave me immediate relief from pressure. We
had about an hour where intensity was less extreme and I was able to use the gas and air
efficiently and breathe through the surges again, Jamie would hold mouthpiece for me and
place it in my mouth when I needed it during surges, and gave me sips of water too as
needed between surges.
I began feeling the urge to bear down, so with each surge I was bearing down. There was a
shift change around 7am, and at 8am one of the new midwifes who had come on shift
suggested moving through to the shower, I was feeling exhausted and had enough of being
on all 4’s, I felt like I had been bearing down and wasn’t making much progress so decided
to give it a go.
I stood up in the shower holding onto the handrails, Jamie used shower to spray water on
my back which provided some amazing much needed relief in my lower back. I was able to
go with my body as I naturally felt the urges to breathe and bear down with surges, I did this
very vocally. After around 20mins in the shower going with my body, bearing down in a
standing squat position during surges, I felt baby was getting nearer. The midwife said she
could see baby’s head, another big breath down and baby’s head was out, I got my breath
back, waited on the next surge and one more big loud effort and our beautiful baby was
born in the shower at 8.20am on 22/01/17.
The midwife rubbed her down behind me as I continued to hold onto the rails for support.
She then passed baby up to me, I held her to my chest. The midwife asked me if I had seen
what we had, I looked and surprisingly announced “it’s a girl” (my gut instinct had been boy
throughout pregnancy). The midwife brought a chair over, I sat in the shower holding our
beautiful daughter with Jamie standing next to us. When the cord stopped pulsating I cut
the cord. After around 5mins we moved back through to the room and I sat on the bed.
At 8.30am I birthed the placenta naturally, between 8.30-9am I held our daughter (skin to
skin) all was calm, Jamie was next to us; we did it. Despite being completely exhausted there
are no words to explain the feeling of pure joy and love I felt for Jamie and the baby at this
At 9am the bleeding had not stopped (I had lost 700units at this point) I had to have an IV
put in to clot blood, nurse performed uterine massage and put in a urinary catheter. The
bed was moved back into the middle of the room. As the midwives became more
increasingly concerned that bleeding still was not stopping, there was a sense of panic in the
room as they disagreed about IV measures, I think I remained calm because I was so
exhausted, I began to use the gas and air again as it took several attempts at catheter due to
swelling and uterine massage was very uncomfortable.
At 10.30 my Dr (Obs/Gyn) was called in, he checked for deep internal tearing (as was no
external tearing) there was none, he removed blood clots and checked for any left-over
placenta, then used vaginal packing to stop bleeding, I continued to use gas and air
throughout. Whilst the midwives and Dr were working to control the bleeding our baby had
cuddles with her Dad Jamie, he stood close by and held our baby close to me so I could still
see them both. They did take Jamie and baby just outside room to do baby’s checks at one
point. I did become emotional around this time, with tears flowing down my cheeks I wasn’t
really sure why, I guess it was just pure exhaustion at that point.
At 1pm we were finally able to move through to the ward. We decided to call our precious
baby Skyla Grace Dilges, she was 6.8lbs (3.1Kilo’s) and passed all her checks with no issues.
Skyla and I spent 3 nights in the hospital, Jamie stayed at a motel and spent the days with
us. During my time in the hospital the midwives were very supportive helping us to establish
On Wed 25/01/17 we brought our beautiful daughter Skyla home, where she met her
canine siblings (our 3 dogs Moe, Bonnie & Swags) who were very happy to have us home
and who have all happily welcomed Skyla into the pack.
Although my pregnancy was difficult (suffering from severe nausea throughout) & the birth
was more intense than I could have possibly imagined, it was all so worth it. Words cannot
describe how in love we are and how blessed we feel.
I am so glad we did the hypnobirthing course, I feel that the techniques and tracks really
helped us through early and active labour, and gave me the confidence to go with and trust
my body and trust that my body and baby knew what to do during transitional phase and birth.